New School

We are coming out of the post-surgery haze. Having come out of hospital one week after the operation, Sam started at a new school exactly two weeks after surgery. We had feared that he wouldn’t be well enough and might miss the beginning of term, so it felt like a huge win to get him there in one (slightly bruised, stitched together) piece.

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James has taken a significant chunk of time off work so we have had the luxury of introducing Sam to school slowly, calmly, with both of us around to make it work. We have been able to take him in together, learning how to drive into central London without killing a cyclist or getting embedded in a stationary traffic jam, and pick him up early. Eli has come in with us and got to know the new school. We have all been able to meet the staff and see where Sam spends his day. It’s all been significantly less stressful than I anticipated.

It’s not all been plain sailing. Until earlier this week Sam had periods of profound unhappiness which couldn’t be resolved with paracetamol, or ibuprofen, or TV, or books, or lying in bed. There are few things more sapping than spending four hours with a child who is really unhappy and being apparently incapable of making things better. Maybe he had a headache (there is, after all, stuff in there that wasn’t there before), or a tummy ache (ditto), or the wounds are uncomfortable, or he’s just really bored of being with us at home. Not fun. But if someone told me pre-surgery that Sam would start at school two weeks later and be largely cheerful (or at least not miserable), I would have taken it.

He’s now done two weeks and he isn’t just putting up with school, he is really happy. As we walked in on the first day, Sam was all smiles. He has loved school thus far and he knew he would enjoy it, and he was right. That is partly because he likes learning and the variety of a school day, and partly because it’s an excellent school. James and I were far more nervous than Sam, but the staff are so obviously capable, receptive and skilled that we have had no choice but to happily leave Sam there and go for lunch in Clerkenwell or take Eli to the Museum of London, again.

I’ve described before the importance, and marvelousness, of one’s disabled child going to a really good school. We have been fortunate enough to find two. Sam has moved schools because we, and the professionals working with him, felt he would benefit from more specific and specialist input so he has moved from a school for children with a range of special educational needs to a school for physically disabled children. He, and we, loved his previous school and were sad to leave. We all made very good friends there and Sam was lucky to be taught and supported by lovely, skilled people for two years. Saying goodbye to them all involved a lot of weeping, for once not just by me.

As part of leaving, Sam got his last school report. We spend a lot of time reading expert reports about Sam that are, necessarily, factual and focus on problems. Sam’s report was the exact opposite of this – hundreds of words of enthusiasm and celebration. It was a joy to read and was written evidence of the can-do attitude of his lovely teacher. Forgive me as I quote some of my favourite bits – comments that could only be made by people who have taken time to really get to know Sam and see past the immediate obstacles to communication and learning:

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‘Sam is an extremely popular member of class and throughout the school community. Children and adults are drawn to Sam’s fun friendly nature and positive attitude.’

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 ‘One of Sam’s many lovely qualities is his empathy. If another pupil receives praise or is celebrated for an achievement Sam will start to beam and become very excited.’

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 ‘Sam has fantastic understanding of the spoken word and can communicate with adults using his communication board, his PODD book, symbols or just by gesture.’

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 ‘Sam has really flourished with phonics activities this year, and with the continued support he receives from his family he has excelled in this area. Sam can now recognise a variety of letter formations and can confidently identify their sound. For example when presenting Sam with a choice of four sounds: ‘igh’, ‘th’, ‘er’, ‘ue’, Sam can confidently read the letters and communicate this by eye pointing.’

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 ‘At the beginning of the year Sam required support at the trunk to sit independently. Now in soft play when he is propped up against the slide he can sit cross legged completely on his own for up to two minutes! This has been such great progress and we are all really impressed with how hard Sam works in these sessions.’

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We are incredibly proud of him, so pleased he’s had such a brilliant experience of school so far and so thankful for such talented teachers and assistants. What a geek! Like mother (and father), like son.



5 thoughts on “New School

  1. What a star!
    Special Schools are incredible places. Ours is a joy to visit and definitely the best place for our little man.
    Your justly proud of Sam. He’s doing really well.

  2. Good luck and Gods blessing on Sam on his big new adventure.
    Like all the Lynchs, not to forget his Nana, taking to learning like
    a duck to water.

    Well done James, Eli and ‘very’ not least your very good and
    brave yourself.

    Love, Martin Lynch

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